A thought came to my mind on just an ordinary day. I wasn't really thinking about much but there it was, "What do you do when you try to make peace with someone and they refuse your attempt to reconcile?"
I know we can all recall a moment in our past when we had to make peace with someone. It was either a friend, relative, church member, coworker or even a stranger. Its never easy to be the bigger person. So many negative thoughts will run through your mind about what the other person will think of or say about you. Though making ammends is difficult we all deserve that sense of peace, not just amongst us but within ourselves.
So after you have thought so hard about what you'll say to them, practiced your approach and even checked your attitude, this person, your foe, is still upset and wants nothing to do with you. How do you handle the situation? Do you lash out at them to satisfy yourself somehow? My advise is that you don't lash out on them. You don't make the situation worse.
Think about how Jesus handled mankind. He came offering his love to all but not everyone accepted him. Jesus a true peacemaker was beaten, persecuted, scorned and the worse, he was crucified. During Jesus' time on earth when he was spreading his love to all and was rejected, he could have retaliated in anger. Maybe Jesus could have done to us what we had done to him. He didn't, because he insisted on offering eternal life to all men. So if we didn't accept the promise of eternal life he gave at that moment, some time later some of us would because he was consistent in the way he gave us his love. The best thing about the love that Jesus gave was that it wasn't a one time offer but it has been lingering throughout all the generations that passed on before us and it will still be available to those who may exist after us.
You probably might be thinking that you are not Jesus but we are expected to live like he did. When your offer to reconcile has been refused, do not give up. Keep offering peace, keep loving, keep on being kind, and don't let bitterness reside in your hearts.
Rejection is not easy but in all situations we must seek to please God and God doesn't want us to live in hatred. If you have been rejected in your attempt to reconcile, please don't use that rejection as an excuse to start talking bad about that person. We all need time to heal from the wounds that life brings us. Be understanding and pray always.
God bless you!
Yours in Christ,